This is how you lose her.
You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.
You must remember when she forgets.
You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.
She remembers when you forget.
You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.
You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her"
LMAO! Why the heck am I now reading this?? This is hilarious. My relationship with my cheating lousy ex from 2 years ago?? Was awful. I don’t even know why I stayed with him for so long when I knew I deserved better. Okay okay there were some good times but a lot of bad times. I did and gave him everything he wanted, I made sure he was damn happy but he pretty much walked all over me and cheated on me multiple times. Deep down I knew that he was a good person but he wasn’t ready to commit. I don’t think he ever will be. I just wish him good luck on his life and pray for him to be happy. I made my peace with him and want nothing to do with him anymore.
Part 2: hopeless and helpless.
We expect mommy and daddy even at a grown age to help us. Oh poor sweetie you got a D in class? What you got detention even though you were goofing off in class? Let us call the teacher and lecture them. No! That is not fucking okay. Teachers are there to help us grow and learn, so if you are goofing off in class, damn right you earned that detention. Do you know what teachers go through daily? Parents, learned to not always hover and protect your damn spoiled rotten kid. Life is a cruel mistress. That’s how we learn and grow as individuals. My little sister was a huge trouble maker during middle school, my poor mom had to constantly go to court because my sister would miss and skip classes, and get into fights with other girls a lot. Finally, my mom stopped bailing her out, and my sister finally learned her lesson. Now she’s a freshman in college at WTAMU trying to become a veterinarian. I had my own personal grown experience as well. My freshman year in college, I had $1000 in my savings account. By the end of that year, it was all gone because I spent it all on drugs, shopping and partying. My mom nor my older brother who helped me save that money, stopped me. Because of that, I was taught a valuable lesson and now I’ve been drug free for a good 2 years and started saving up again. Parents, it’s okay to take anything that you paid for away from your kids if they’re acting up. You paid for that shit, and if they can’t appreciate it just take it from them.
We live in a generation that is completely helpless.
I started realizing day by day how completely useless and helpless we all are slowly becoming. We live in a world where we are becoming so dependent on technology that we don’t know how to survive without out. I love watching beauty videos on YouTube by my favorite beauty gurus, but I’m becoming more disappointed in them whenever I see “How to take a perfect selfie” video. We have become less social at social gatherings, I have worked as a waitress and I have worked as a bartender before and 80% of the time, I have seen people on their phones nonstop, I won’t lie, I am guilty of that too. But sh*t gets ridiculous whenever you’re supposed to be on a date and you can’t even have a proper conversation anymore because you’re always on your phone. It’s not just the younger generation doing this, it’s also the older generation. Adults trying to fit in and be at the same level as their kids, its disgraceful and shameful. I have seen family dinners as well, where the whole fam bam are on their phones. I have a few words to say and that is…. PUT THAT GAWD DAMN PHONE DOWN!!! It’s not so freaking important to always be on your phone.